Let’s start off with a bang (phrasing). Back in the seventies Playboy published an article called “the half-hour orgasm” (yes, I read Playboy for the articles, after half an hour masturbation just becomes a chore) wherein the writer describes another article written years before that describes, in part, how to give a woman an orgasm that lasts longer than the few seconds an orgasm regularly lasts.
Sorry guys but this technique only seems to work on women, I think it may have something to do with the fact that women are multi-orgasmic, on the other hand; being able to give a woman an orgasm that lasts a disconcertingly long time will make you a sex god and will likely make her want to jump your bones at all hours of the day and night. Although I have heard this technique described as being practiced on men using the prostate as the G-spot. I’ve never had any confirmation of this but if your proclivities run toward anal stimulation I say go for it. Of course men are generally not multi-orgasmic so your ability to practice and perfect this technique on men will be limited.
So, put very simply, you just need to manipulate both her clitoris and G-spot simultaneously focusing first on her clitoris until orgasm is achieved then switching focus to her G-spot to maintain the orgasm until it begins to waiver when you switch focus back to the clitoris. The G-spot is located on the anterior wall (that’s the front) of the vagina about an inch or less inside and just to the left and right of center. The vaginal lining has a certain feel, and the G-spot feels more like a tiny bump so, once you find it you can familiarize yourself with the location and feel and always find it again.
If it is difficult to find, ask her where her G-spot is, if she doesn’t know, and you’d be surprised at how many women don’t even know they have one, talk to her while moving your finger inside her vagina until she says, “there”. There is some evidence to suggest that the G-spot is actually a gland called “Skene’s gland” or the para/periurethral gland or even the female prostate. This gland is responsible for lubricating the vagina and manipulation of this gland, through the vaginal wall, may likely be what we call the G-spot. The bumps I described are actually two of the openings through which this gland secretes lubrication.
Now I understand that many of us are shy when talking about sex, we’ve had it pounded into our brains, practically from birth, that sex is something ‘naughty’ or ‘dirty’ and best left not talked about by good boys and girls. This is stupid, but then I don’t really need to tell you that, the fact that you are reading this means you already want to be good at sex and are willing to overcome any shyness that has been implanted in your brain to get better at it.
Good for you, now you just need to go a little further and talk openly about sex with your partner.
The key to this technique is communication, and I don’t necessarily mean the verbal kind. If she’s having an orgasm she shouldn’t really be able to think much less say anything, so you need to watch her closely for the necessary changes.
An orgasm brings about several physiological responses; curling toes, tightened abdomen muscles, and a clenching of the muscles inside the vagina. When the clenching starts letting up, that’s when you switch back to the clitoris and when you feel her tighten up again move focus back to the G-spot. This sounds a little strange but, think of the clitoris as the choke on an old engine and the G-spot as the gas, you need to ease off the choke once the engine is going or it will stall out and, if you don’t give it gas once it’s started it will stop running at all.
I have found that the best way to accomplish this technique, at least for me, is to manipulate the clitoris with my thumb and the G-spot with the index finger. I have yet to figure out how to perform this technique with anything other than my hands but it’s always fun to experiment.
Keep in mind that everyone is different and this is why open communication with her is so important; you need to ask what turns her on, what she likes and dislikes and work on the technique together. Some women like a third finger inserted deep and manipulating the entrance to her uterus, some women want their nipples played with, some women like to be spanked. Just ask and, blushing aside, she’ll probably tell you. She’ll probably be very happy to tell you. There are very few people who don’t like orgasms.
One last note – don’t expect to do this perfectly the first time, or the hundred and seventh for that matter. Keeping an orgasm going is a lot like balancing a knife on its point and it depends as much on her mood, your stamina and concentration and any of a number of other factors that you have no control over at all. Don’t be discouraged if it takes a while, practice makes perfect and I’ve yet to find anyone who minds the practice. Even if you have a hard time keeping it going, remember, she just had an orgasm.
Keep up the good work, hombre.